Ways to be a good foster parent – I have been so excited about this post and gathering information for it. Being a foster parent is a hard and difficult task — but also a rewarding one! It can be tough to navigate the relationship between handpicked and biological children.
We have quite a few friends who are foster parents so I asked some of them the question “What do you think makes a good foster parent? Do you have tips for other foster families?” I absolutely loved the conversation that it started and I am excited to share the tips from these foster families.
Here are 14 WAYS TO BE A GOOD FOSTER PARENT from full-fledged foster parents!
14 WAYS TO BE A GOOD FOSTER PARENT
#1) When kids move out, NEVER pack their things in garbage bags. By doing this, you are telling them their stuff is garbage.
#2) Send update letters/pictures to the biological family if possible (or allowed). It makes them feel connected.
#3) Never talk bad about the biological parents. They’ve made mistakes and the kids need to understand that you don’t write people off for making mistakes.
#4) “Handpicked” kids love personalized things. Name signs to hang on their doors and anything that belongs specifically to them.
#5) Keep routines and keep boundaries. No matter how hard it is, it’s the best way to show kids love.
#6) Take time for yourself. Don’t feel guilty about the time you need for yourself — you deserve it.
#7) If you have biological kids, take time for them too. It’s ok to have one on one time with them.
#8) Just like any parent, you want to spend quality time with them, getting to know their passions and interests. Of course, to build a strong attachment means to nurture their physical, emotional, cognitive and spiritual needs. They come at different levels of development. The challenge is to find what’s missing and fill it in.
#9) Each and every child is different and have different needs.
#10) Don’t be afraid to leave everything you’re doing just take care of your child.
#11) Going to therapy with your child can be beneficial to help you both understand how to deal with different issues.
#12) Teach trust.
#13) Be careful with hugging. It doesn’t always represent love.
#14) And above all else — LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY no matter what!
I would love to hear from you – what other things would you add to this list. Please leave a comment below.
A special thanks to Mindy and other foster moms from Southern Manitoba for their contributions to this post.
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