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Everyone needs encouragement so today I am going to share with you 5 practical ways to encourage a friend who is feeling down or going through a hard time. You may also like these 99 acts of kindness.

ways to encourage a friend

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What does it mean to encourage? The simple definition according to the merriam-webster dictionary is to make (someone) more determined, hopeful, or confident.


  1. LISTEN TO THEM – we often are quick to offer suggestions when what our friend really needs is a listening ear – just be there to listen, it’s more powerful that you may think.
  2. GIVE A HAND WRITTEN NOTE – texts and Facebook messages are becoming the norm, but giving a handwritten note to a friend can be a huge spirit lifter – write it on some pretty note cards, add a favorite verse or quote and deliver it in person or even send in via good ole’ fashioned post mail.
  3. GO FOR A WALK TOGETHER – a good way to get in some one-on-one friend time while getting the natural benefit of some vitamin D from the sunshine and a release of endorphins which can also trigger a positive feeling in the body.
  4. OFFER POSITIVE WORDS – remind your friend of a time when they encouraged you – sometimes when they are going through a hard time they feel that they are just a downer – remind them of their strengths or how they helped you in some way.
  5. FOCUS ON THE FUTURE – Sometimes when the moment they are in is a gloomy one, that is all they see, they can not see the sunshine behind the cloud. Ask your friend what dreams they have – talk about practical ways to achieve some of those goals – getting them excited about the future helps them see glass as half full instead of half empty.

What are some ways that you have been encouraged by a friend?



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You may also like these 99 acts of kindness.


Jen L

Sunday 6th of March 2016

I have a friend who lives 2 provinces away and has a major illness of a family member to deal with right now. I would write to her.


Sunday 6th of March 2016

My kids and my sisters.

Betty S

Sunday 6th of March 2016

I would write it to my daughter, she is going thru some tough times

Cat C

Saturday 5th of March 2016

I would write a note to a friend who has been searching for a job for a while.


Saturday 5th of March 2016

To my boyfriend while he is studying for exams.