It’s been said before, but it’s worth repeating: There is no rulebook for this parenting gig. There are theories, strategies, baby whisperers, and 411 for just about every age group, but there is no rulebook.
There is no perfect way to parent.
There are no perfect parents.
There are no perfect kids.
Let’s make a deal, you and me; let’s stop focusing on perfect.
Perfect leads to snap judgments. If one parent is perfect, then countless others must be imperfect. This leads to competition. And probably a few more snap judgments.
Why isn’t that four year old potty trained yet?
Why is that boy hitting his mother?
Why doesn’t she enroll her kids in more classes?
Why does she enroll hers in so many?
Why is she letting them make a scene in public?
Why does she leave every time they cry?
I could spend days listing the snap judgments I’ve read about along the way. I’m sure I’ve been on the receiving end once or twice as well, but I tend to tune that out.
The truth is, we never truly know what someone else is going through unless we are given all of the information.
Maybe the four year old has a medical condition.
Maybe the boy has ADHD, is on a medication, or was up all night for one reason or another.
Maybe her kids don’t want to take extra classes.
Maybe her kids thrive in structured classes.
Maybe it’s just a tantrum and she knows it will pass.
Maybe their dad travels a lot, and they just need time as a family.
The possibilities are endless.
Everyone has a story to tell.
So let’s make just one more deal here today: Let’s agree to quiet those thoughts before we utter them out loud. Let’s get the facts, or just move on. Let’s show a little empathy for the other parents we encounter.
Let’s assume that we are all doing the best that we can.
Because the only perfect way to parent is the way that is perfect for your family.
And, at the end of the day, perfection is just a myth…
Will you embrace imperfection?
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