A: When I read this question there are several assumptions I need to make.
Assumption #1 – the daughter is a teenager;
Assumption #2 – the family is of an economic background where everyone can afford their own clothes; and
Assumption #3 – the mother and the daughter already have their own separate clothes.
Now if we go with all these assumptions I would also like to ask why they are sharing clothes. Teenagers are funny creatures (yes…I called them creatures…because they are) they want their independence, but still want to be connected with their family group on some type of emotional level. I also think teenagers need the space to explore who they are and what they like, with in the safety of a healthy family unit.
Now if a teen wants to explore/experiment in the world of fashion and their mom is showing up to the PTA meeting with pop cans in her hair, than we have not given the child a chance to explore herself.
I realize that not all teens are going to dress like Lady Gaga and not all mom’s are going to share this fashion trend, however lets consider the following. Being a child of the 90’s I can recall a band called Kris Kross who’s trend setting style was to wear their clothes backwards. This was “cool” for a time, and a stupid fad that many teens got caught in who also thought it was stupid but still dressed like idiots because it was cool.
I can say this because I tried this…so there. My parents did not say “you look like an idiot” or “my, that looks cool”. If they simply let it be. Now what would I have done if my dad woke up for work walked out the door with his uniform on backwards.
Another question I would like to ask is why are you dressing like your daughter? This is the time when your daughter is trying to make her own identity and you should be in yours. Be the role model and show the stability that your daughter at this critical junction in her life needs.
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Crystal
Wednesday 8th of September 2010
Well, first of all hats off to the mom who can wear junior sizes. HALLO! That said, I think the lines between adults and kids are blurred more and more everyday. If the clothes at topic are modest tops and the like, sure. Might even be fun. But if we're getting into form-fitting territory, sounds like another issue may be arising, with all fingers pointing to mommy.
Huguette E.
Saturday 4th of September 2010
We share jewelry but would never shared clothes even if we were the same size.
I'm His Kid
Friday 3rd of September 2010
I'm not sure what "economic background" has to do with it, or where you were going with the "wearing clothes backwards" and "pop cans in the hair". I do agree with the identity issue. Mothers don't need to wear "mom jeans", but they do need to have a separate more mature identity from the younger generation.
Alex
Friday 3rd of September 2010
I agree with Trevor. I don't think mothers and daughters should be sharing clothes, when the daughter is a teenager.
I think it's perfectly fine later in life. For example; I'm 26yrs old, married with children. I have borrowed clothes from my mom before and she's given me clothes that she doesn't wear anymore. It just happens that we have similar taste when it comes to fashion.
But as a teenager? Omg I was horrified when my mother bought jeans from the same store as I did (Stitches). Proud of her for fitting in them, but horrified none the less.
Mommy Lisa
Friday 3rd of September 2010
Ummm. My mom and I used to trade Firenza sweaters in the 80's. And sometimes a button-down oxford or piece of jewelry.
Why is that bad? She still gives me old clothes that she doesn't wear any longer and I have given her some of my things in the past too.