I read a quote the other day:
“I believe in second chances, I just don’t think everyone deserves them.”
What do you think? Do you think that everyone deserves a second chance?
What if someone hurt you? Or a family member? How quick would you be to forgive and wipe the slate clean so that the offender could have a second chance?
I’m sure many of you are saying “It would depend on the action”. And I think I agree with you.
I don’t know about you, but while it is hard to give someone who has offended us a second chance, I think it is even harder to give yourself a second chance. I know I am guilty of being extra hard on myself. But is that something I want my daughter to learn? That second chances aren’t an option?
Taking a page out of Way Too Wonderland’s book, A Semi-Charming Kind of Life, here are a few tips to teach your little ones to give second chances:
Lead by Example ~ There will be times as a parent where the right thing to do is offer your little one a second chance. Forgetting to take out the trash, complete a small homework assignment or return home in time for dinner are all small mistakes a child will make. Instead of serving a punishment right away, try offering a second chance. This way your little one can see firsthand the benefits of being given a second chance and what it’s an important thing to do with others.
Things Aren’t Always as They Appear ~ Sometimes other children act out because they are insecure or have something upsetting or stressful happening in their lives. Rather than jumping to conclusions about someone, encourage your child to consider what else might be happening in the other person’s life. Encourage them to be tolerant, offer a second chance and maybe even check-in with the other person to see what might be happening in their life that is causing them to act out of character.
Encourage Compassion ~ The golden rule states that we should all treat others how we would like to be treated ourselves. Teaching your child this kind of compassion is an important lifelong skill.
Ban Name Calling ~ Often for little ones, giving a second chance to someone doesn’t involve any wrong doing. In certain circumstances it can be that a friend or classmate has done something embarrassing in front of others. Tell your child that jumping on the bandwagon and making fun of another child in that position is not acceptable. Remind them how they would feel if the shoe was on the other foot.
Praise Kindness ~ If your child offers someone a second chance, give them praise. Acknowledge to them directly that giving a second chance is hard and that you’re very proud of them for doing the right thing. In future, they will be motivated to do the right thing as they have received positive reinforcement for the same actions previously.
How easy is it for you and/or your little one to give a second chance?
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