While many parents won’t outwardly admit it, lots of them slip up and yell at their kids.
While most of us desire and aspire to be calm parents, coming from a place of love and good intentions, sometimes we lose it.
The stress of daily life can get to us, causing us to yell at those we most value and care for, our kids.
The truth is though, not only is yelling a negative way to try to get through to our kids, it is just downright ineffective.
HOW TO STOP YELLING AT YOUR KIDS
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We want our kids to listen to us, yet by raising our voices we cause them to shut down and shut us out further.
There are several reasons you shouldn’t yell at your kids, and several ways to stop doing it.
REALIZE IT’S INEFFECTIVE
Many parents believe that yelling is harmless, however, that’s not the case.
Yelling doesn’t cause our children to listen, rather it causes them to retreat, shut down or communicate ineffectively.
Once we realize that yelling truly doesn’t work, it becomes something we focus on trying to change.
Keep in mind that yelling only undermines the bond you have with kids, causing them to feel attacked and belittled.
Sometimes all we need is a moment in time to collect ourselves and cool down.
Prior to resorting to yelling, take a timeout.
When you are worked up and yelling, you truly only elevate your child.
Take a deep breath and think before you speak, making sure to address your children calmly.
A deep breath can make all the difference in how you approach a situation.
GET TO THEIR LEVEL
Rather than trying to communicate with your little ones from across a room, make sure you are in close proximity.
Get down to your child’s level and make sure you have eye contact before you begin talking.
You want to make sure that you have your child’s attention and the best way to do that is to speak calmly to their face rather than scream across a room.
FOCUS ON POSITIVITY
Most parents want to have a positive relationship with their children.
Remember that the way you communicate with them has a large effect on the closeness of your bond.
Rather than focusing on the negative behaviors your children are engaging in calmly approach them from a place of positivity.
Don’t yell, instead, tell them what you expect and make it clear.
Remember to focus on the positive things they do as well.
This will help to keep them more interested in making good choices.
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Yelling at your children is an extremely ineffective way to parent.
If you wish to change your yelling habit, make sure to realize this.
Take a deep breath and think through your actions, get to your children’s level and calmly approach them, focusing on remaining positive.
In no time your yelling habit will be under control and you will have a much more functional and positive relationship with your children.
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