It can be infuriating when your children seemingly don’t listen to you. The truth is though, sometimes our nagging can be overbearing and they are just tuning us out.
We need to learn how to talk so kids will listen.
The nagging accomplishes nothing and neither does raising your voice.
When you nag constantly and raise your voice just to get your children to pay attention you have accidentally taught them that the only time you mean what you are saying is when you are raising your voice and in an emotional state.
HOW TO TALK SO KIDS WILL LISTEN
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The good news is that you can change this all.
Your kids will listen to you when you are collected, calm and speaking without raising your voice. All you need to do is learn how to talk so kids will listen.
CHANGE YOUR EXPECTATIONS
Don’t get caught up in the dream that children will always listen to their parents and immediately respond.
That is just not reasonable. You aren’t raising a robot. Your child has feelings and thoughts of their own and will sometimes make that known. It’s ok.
You aren’t being disrespected or undermined every time your child displays an unwillingness to listen, nor are they attempting to challenge your authority.
Your child is totally normal and learning about limits and boundaries through experience.
Their lack of listening simply means you have yet to learn how to establish limits without having to use verbal cues. That will come.
TALK LESS
Kids start to ignore parents because they speak so often and sometime throw around empty threats of repercussions.
Be more conscious of what you are attempting to relay to your children and make sure that every single word counts.
The more you request for your child to comply, the less likely your child will respond and follow through.
So, from now on, before you say something to them or request for them to do something, make sure you mean it.
FOLLOW THROUGH
Always remember that the threat of a consequence means nothing. It’s the follow-through that hits home most.
Veiled punishments or empty threats mean nothing to your children, especially when they know they will never happen. Never suggest a consequence to an action that you don’t intend to follow through on.
There are many ways to talk so kids will listen.
The simplest thing to remember is that we must be realistic without expectations, talk when we mean it and follow through with the consequences we offer.
If parents don’t make these changes, they can’t expect their children to take them seriously and therefore they will tune you out every chance they get.
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