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Mind Games

by Carly,

Does everyone know the game of chicken? It’s a game of who can tolerate something longer. Usually demonstrated in a road when a car is coming and there is someone standing in it’s way. You think “okay, either the car is going to swerve or the person is going to get out of the way. Who is going to give up first?”

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Do you ever find yourself playing this game while parenting in a much smaller scale. (of course!) Well I do. This is how it goes at my house. For example, when my baby has a stinky diaper, who is going to tolerate the nasty smell the longest? Me? or my husband? Or lets say the baby woke up from her nap, who will go get her to stop crying first?   Me or Him?

My husband always wins. He is the grand champion of the game. I give up seconds after starting because I can’t stand the crying or poopy smell. I know why he always wins. It is actually because he never knows we are playing in the first place. It is all me. One of my mind games.

The strange thing about this whole process is that if I just ask my husband to go and do these things, he will. He is a wonderful helper. We make a great parenting team. He just doesn’t notice or act on things the same way I do.  Why is it that as women sometimes we don’t want to ask?  We just want it to be done.

This is a classic discussion that goes on between men and women everywhere. Communication right? It is difficult but partnership cannot survive without it.

I think I am going  to stop playing my mental chicken game and politely look over to my sweet husband and just ask him already! Yeah, that’s a much better plan.

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Carly is a contributing writer for Mommy Moment. She has 3 very dramatic but beautiful girls ages 7, 4, and 1. Carly loves to write, cook, and connect with other moms through this crazy thing called blogging! See what she has been up to over at www.livingthescream.com

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Carri

Sunday 14th of November 2010

Oh.... Alex... I'm so glad I'm not the only one who does that! In fact, I did that very thing last night! :) I'm a very heavy sleeper but I don't always sleep through as much as my husband would think.

Living the Scream

Wednesday 10th of November 2010

I am so glad I am not the only one who does this!

Teresa

Wednesday 10th of November 2010

I do this all the time every day. I, too, have an issue with asking for help as I know if I do I feel I will sound weak and as a woman and a mom and a wife I feel I should be a strong provider in doing things around the house. I try to get it all done and in the end get upset because it didnt get done and hubby turns to me and says "well, if you would've asked for help, i would gladly have helped you." Thanks--future reference now but I still have trouble asking for help!

Alex

Wednesday 10th of November 2010

lol awesome post! I love it :)

Shhh. Don't tell my husband. 90% of the time when Diva wakes up in the middle of the night, I do hear her. I just don't feel like getting out of our comfy bed. Hubby will eventually get up :)

Happy Heart

Wednesday 10th of November 2010

Yep totally identify with you! I constantly play chicken with my hubby! I just double checked though - he's fully aware of the game! That's unfortunate for me, because he normally wins also!